We all do it, as the new Year comes in we get swept away with the idea that the coming year will give us the chance to turn a new page and start from scratch. With this notion comes the chance to make some promises to ourselves that we will be better people in the coming year, we will do more charity work, lose weight, try new things, be nicer, laugh more, take that trip that we’ve talked about for years.

The unfortunate truth is that a great many of these resolutions that we make as we see in the New Year never actually come to fruition. In a paradoxical outcome, we actually end up feeling worse about ourselves in the new year than we did in the last as we become frustrated and disappointed at our efforts. Let’s take a look then at why these resolutions generally fail, and how we can stop it.

Over Ambitious

One of the key reasons why most of us fail with our promises is that we are far too ambitious about how much of a change we are going to make. Just because there is a new year on the calendar it doesn’t mean that you will change entirely who you are as a human being and you shouldn’t make promises that suggest that you will. Try to keep it simple, make one, achievable resolution for yourself and stay focused on that one thing, too many promises mean that we cannot give the energy to everything.

Shared Guilt

There is very much a domino effect when it comes to resolutions, once you see a friend or a family member give up on theirs, it becomes easier for you to do so as well. Try to find a resolution buddy, someone who will make the same pledge as you and someone who can support you when you are failing at it, and visa versa. Shared responsibility works both ways and if you want to stick to your resolution then find someone who wants the same as you.

Breaking Habit Ain’t Easy

Breaking a habit is far from easy and when you make grandiose pledges for what you will do in the new year, you are making a promise to break a habit in an instant. Habits don’t work like this and developing a new one needs to be done little by little. If you have never been to the gym for 5 years and you make a pledge to hit the gym at 7am each morning, you simply aren’t going to be able to sustain it as you don’t do this habitually and it is a he effort to try and manufacture a new habit. By all means make a resolution but back it up with a plan as to how you will achieve it, stage by stage. This will not only keep you hopeful of success but help you to change your habits.